Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Listen up...

I came across a passage somewhere in my readings about listening in and of itself and...

Ever since then...

I've been thinking about the words I read quite a bit. (They really resonated with me)

So much so that...

I've been extremely mindFUl about my own listening practices.

If anything...

I've been cognisant about when I "stop" listening and instead...

Find myself talking.

Never with a mouthful though :P
recipe can be found here

More often than not however...

The talking to and fro flowed naturally but...

Other times...

In my excitement or in an urgency to share my perspective or story...

I found myself pausing someone else's tale and for the sake of sharing my own.

Although never has it been my intention to "interrupt" (if that's what we want to call it)...

I have noticed that in some situations...

I've jumped the gun in wanting to share something too.

"How rude" as one Full House child once said. (And will say again soon, maybe, on Netflix! lol)

Mind you...

Never would I think myself to be rude...

But...

By becoming more aware and learning more about listening more attentively...

I can see where I might need more practice.

That being said...

I've purposefully been working at my listening skills as...

I do want to become a better listener. (It's not that I think I'm bad but I do know I can be better)

So..

I've been working on some personal development exercises which include some of the following things (although they may sound redundant, they are not):

1. Resisting the temptation to stop a story from being told because I need to share mine right away.
2. Pausing before speaking. Soon it will be my turn to share something in return.
3. Stop assuming that I know what will come next based on my own similar experience. (Or my psychic abilities) :P
4. Opening my ears before opening my vocal box.
5. Learn from listening.

Question FU You...

1. Unintentionally, do you ever find yourself so excited to share your story that you 'interrupt' another from being told?

Stay Tuned FU More On *CaNdY FiT*

7 comments:

  1. I have found myself in this position so many times, especially since becoming a mother. Now that I am primarily by myself with my young children there are very few adults to talk to and my source of communication is my blog, social media and texting. I think I've lost my knack for listening mainly because I, as you said, am so excited to when I can deeply empathize with someone. You have brought up such a good reminder this morning. Today I will start off with an open ear and heart. Great post! xo

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    1. I love this --> Today I will start off with an open ear and heart. Yes. Yes to that.

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  2. YUP. I have been more mindful of it for several years now, but it is my tendency too. I think it comes from an eagerness to share, but I do think it is rude, too.

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  3. I think women have a tendency to do this more than men. "studies show" it's our way of expressing active listening. Don't beat yourself up about this habit, but I like your idea of embracing the art of listening too. We could all do more of that :)

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    1. Would love for you to share the link to the stud if you have it!
      Yes to active listening - I think being aware of when you choose to be active is important...engaging in a conversation vs. interrupting it- it's a really interesting topic.

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  4. Ugh. I a m so bad at interrupting people. I get excited and want to move the conversation along.

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  5. YES!!!
    Ive not rocked it but my word for 2015 is SILENCE for just this reason.

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