Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Disconnecting: 5 Things I Learned!

Hey everyone...

Long time no talk! (Has a week already gone by since I posted last?!)

Did you miss us? ;)

Let me tell you...

I wasn't quite sure how my week without blogging would go or even how...

Limiting my connectivity with facebook, instagram and twitter would work out but, let me just say...

It did me some good! (A lot of good!) 

It taught me how to bake real cupcakes ;)

As I knew I would be taking a week off posting on the blog...

I wasn't quite sure how much I would really limit my activity on different social media networks other than...

Minimizing my time on and posting to them.

I gotta say...

After two days of disconnecting...

I ended up limiting (cutting) my online time to less than 30-45 minutes a day! (Checking emails and scrolling through things here and there!)

Honestly...

It felt really good to simply detach myself from the outside and simply focus on the inside and what was happening in and around me!

FUrthermore...

It felt good looking up and FUlly experiencing the moment without taking a snapshot of it and adding description to go along with it! (Don't get me wrong, I do love sharing, like I really, REALLY do but, I also found that I like keeping some sharing personal too...know what I mean?)

To put it simply...

My week off gave me an opportunity to learn about myself and my surroundings and...

It gave me a new perspective on what I do, how I do it and...

What I need to do to stay and be more connected with myself (and others) as time and life goes on! (It really strengthened all of my relationships in more ways than one!)

No doubt...

It was a really good exercise for me to do mentally as...

It had been far too long since I last disconnected myself from everything! (As the week went on, the more and more I stepped away from electronics without any desire to check my phone or what not which, wasn't something I expected!)

So...

With all of that being said...

Here are the top 5 things I've learned and have taken away from being disconnected (as I transition back into my connectivity!):

  1. Life goes on: It really does. Taking a break from my online connectivity made me realize that life goes on and so does everything else around me. So what if I'm not up to date with everything that's happening or if I'm not keeping everyone updated on what's going on with me? Life is happening and that's what I need to focus on more than anything as I grow in my journey through, well, life!
  2. Enjoy the moment: How can I truly (and I mean truly) enjoy, live and be in the moment if I'm constantly sharing my every move? As easy as it is to share what I'm doing with a simple snap & click, I've learned that I'd rather do and experience the moment before me and then share it (if I so choose!). If I'm constantly posting as I'm doing, I'm really not FUlly living in the moment as parts of the moments are spent looking down at my screen as opposed to what's right in front of me.
  3. Look up: I have to say, the more disconnected I became the more I noticed how connected we all are....to our phones! As I made the effort to leave my phone behind, turn off the wifi (and turn on my airplane mode while exercising and listening to music), I noticed how much we all look down at our screens. And trust me, I know I've done this far too much which is why I'm now making a point to connect myself back to viewing things with my own eyes as opposed to behind a lens. In other words, I need to look up and see the world with my own two eyes. As they say, wake up and smell the coffee because in my case, I wasn't connected enough with my surroundings to FUlly appreciate the smell (I love so much) if you know what I mean!
  4. Pay attention: By putting my phone away and disconnecting myself from it, I felt just how much more attentive I was to what was happening in and around me. All of my focus turned on to the now rather than the next. I must say, you really notice when someone isn't giving you their undivided attention when you are talking to them while they are on their phones typing away or checking things as you speak (or as they speak lol). Hmmm...I've definitely done that and I will not any more.
  5. Privacy: As connected as I've become over the past couple of years, minimizing my connectivity made realize that it's okay not to share everything I do. It's okay to keep things to myself no matter what it may be (in life, food and fitness lol). We are all entitled to privacy and we all have a choice to share what it is we want (I knew that but to be honest, I felt like sometimes I was going a bit overboard). In other words, I realized that I don't have to share my every move in order to be connected. That, I don't have to share everything in the moment and that, I can share later on or, not at all. It's up to me and I'm entitled to keeping whatever it is I want personal and, that's okay!
All in all (and truthFUlly speaking)...

This exercise made me see how disconnected I became with myself and those around me by simply being so connected with everything else! (Electronically speaking)

Needless to say...

Disconnecting myself was one of the best things I could have done for myself and (based on what I've learned)...

I will take these lessons learned and apply them to all the things I do as...

I continue along in life!

I know this will be a constant exercise for me to work at but...

I am determined to stay connected in a way that I've found to be more healthy for me! (By being more connected with myself, I can better connect with you!)

Feeling refreshed and connected :)

Questions FU You...

Have you ever disconnected? What did you learn from it?
Have you thought about disconnecting or minimizing your connectivity? What's holding you back?

**I want to give my thanks to you all for your never-ending support in my journey through health, fitness and life! No words could ever describe how much you all mean to me as I continue growing in all the ways I have yet to explore and live through! I am learning as I go along and I will continue  to share what I come to learn as life goes on while of course, keeping my connectivity in check hehe :)**

Stay Tuned FU More On *CaNdY FiT*

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39 comments:

  1. Look up - That is huge! I think society has turned into a hunched over group from staring at phones, ipads, computers, etc! Glad you enjoyed your disconnect but happy you are back!

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    1. It's so true! You notice it even more when you look up!

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  2. glad you learned a lot and also glad you're back! :) :) itz tough to find that balance of how much is too much? (in regards to everything: social media, sharing, etc!)

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    1. Absolutely! It was one the best exercises I've ever done.

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  3. AnonymousJune 18, 2013

    Happy that you experience the disconnect it really made us realize when we see other peoples so conneected. When we left for cambodgia last winter i left without my blackberry and laptop and i felt so light...light in my mind...i only used the computer ounce a week to keep in touch with my mom. Looking at people that were not talking to one an other when they were sitting at the same table was revealing...sometime at a dinner table there was a few ipad/ iphone and people on there facebook... I loved the freedom on not being connected during that trip....i was focused on myself and my boyfriend. Thanks for the reminder. Happy Tuesday!

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    1. Light in mind...you got that right. You take notice of how connected we all are to our phones more than those right in front of us at times. Made me see myself in a whole new light!

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  4. I need to disconnect more. I took some time off last week, mostly because I was super busy. But I should make more of a conscious effort. LOVE IT!

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    1. I'll be doing it again real soon!

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  5. Privacy? What's that? LOL!

    I sort of disconnected for a couple of days post-survery. It was a great feeling... and I AM enjoying my little blogging break. :)

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    1. LOL!

      We all need a break...both in body and mind.

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  6. I would say that look up is very important, I have gotten so I won't even move out of the way of the ones so intent on looking down at their phones while they walk, I wait for them to hit me then say, it may be good to look up once in a while to see what might be in front of you, could of been a car. Glad you had this time, I still blog 5 days a week, and disconnect on the weekends and I limit what I do online in the evenings, so I can have the time to spend watching loved ones disconnect lol

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    1. It really is! Disconnecting made me see how often I look down.

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  7. yes mam!! i call these technology sabbatical. I think we need it ever so often. I'm due for one soon! very soon!

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  8. <3 <3 <3
    I quit the internet for five months once.
    MINIMAL ANYTHING --- all child focused.
    it was good ;-)

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  9. Yeah, it's good to "check out" every once in a while! BTW, funny experience -- last year at the hood to coast relay I spent 30 hours in a van with new blogger-runner friends. At one point, our van lost cell coverage for about 3 hours and these ladies (me too) were very stressed out! But then, we looked out our windows and realized how beautiful the scenery was!

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    1. LOL

      What did we do before the internet?! ;)

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  10. High five to you! I started to limit my connectivity and now it's so much more natural to disconnect more often than not. Like you said, you learn that life goes on whether you're connected or not. Might as well fully enjoy it, right?

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    1. You got that right. I'll be disconnecting again real soon. It's good for the mind :)

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  11. I was away this weekend for a long weekend and thought of you--you inspired me to unplug. It was awesome. So glad you got so much out of your time!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed your time unplugging! I know I did. So good for the mind.

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  12. welcome back! I unfortunately can't fully disconnect b/c social media is my job so i have to be on the computer all day!

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  13. I love this so much and wish more bloggers would take a few off days. It's necessary for the soul in my opinion. I've been completely taking off on the weekends and love not feeling tied to the computer, phone, anything. I think you really do pay more attention to the here and now.

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    1. It really is good for the soul. I realized just how much in 7 days. Loved it.

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  14. Glad to see you back but super glad that you enjoyed your down time! There are times I step back for a day or few days just to unwind and it definitely helps. One thing I try and do every day is no phone/laptop/ipod/etc for at least a full hour (with no people around either) just a complete hour to myself..sometimes I nap, sometimes I read, sometimes I just sit and thing...it's really helped me focus more.

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    1. Thanks! Glad to be back as well but totally enjoyed the time off...disconnecting. Learned so much. Good for you for taking that time to yourself. It's something we should all do more often!

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  15. So glad you're back and yes, you were missed! Glad you learned a lot and can continue to grow as always!

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  16. Yay! I have to disconnect from time to time and even more so this time of the year because the weather is to nice to to be out enjoying it!

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  17. I've been attempting to more, but it's been hard with Fitbloggin right around the corner. When I'm out with hubby though or on our walks I pay attention to HIM and US

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  18. Glad you had such a great week (and learned so much!!). I try to make sure that there are hours at a time during every day where I stay disconnected and fully plugged into my boys and others around me. (the phone is the tricky thing then but I try!!)

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  19. OMG I was without internet (well, except for 3G on my phone, lol) from Thursday until TODAY and I felt so naked, SO NAKED! I won't lie though, it was a tiny bit nice... Just a tiny bit, lol! I did miss you though, I noticed you were MIA... Glad to have you back! :)

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    1. :)

      You bared it all with no video! lol hehhee

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  20. So many great things learned!! I am thinking of doing a family unplug...nothing with screens. We are in need of reconnecting from time to time!

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  21. I think as " healthy living social media mavens" we feel almost responsible to share a lot more detail about our lives than necessary ... for example, it hit me the other day that I was about to post something I ate simply because I felt like I needed to share a healthy meal to keep others who may look up to me in inspiration on track. I know this is great, but at times, it is a bit of a daunting task.

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    1. We have to be responsible for ourselves as well....in keeping ourselves on track ... with life and everything around us. xo

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  22. When you announced you were going to disconnect I was excited to read your follow up to it. :) I'm glad you enjoyed the time to separate. xo

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  23. I love this post Kierston and all of your lessons. Yes! Life does go on and we do need to look up more. It's always a constant battle to try to find the right balance between being connected and not letting it rule your life. I'm so glad that you had a great week away from everything. We all need to do that from time to time. Selfishly, I'm glad to have you back :-)

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  24. I love this Kierston! I really need to do this. I am becoming overloaded with too much of the stuff out there & honestly, my hubby is tired of that phone & stuff - with the Instagram & all... I love it in so many ways but like you wrote - I am becoming disconnected from others & as I am on this I am enough journey - I need to connect with myself too.

    THANK YOU FOR THIS!

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  25. Nice post. I have thought about disconnecting but haven't done it yet. I think its coming soon though. :)

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